Things That Matter

I didn't want my last post before you become a mom to be about dirty diapers.  It seemed wrong (even though diapers will be a part of the new everyday), when there are so many other, much more important things to say.

So here they are.

You can do it.
This mom thing, this raising of tiny humans, it's hard.  It's wonderful.  It's all those cliches you always hear.  I'm so excited for you, and I know you're going to do an amazing job.  

It's ok.
Some days will suck.  Some days, you'll wonder what you were thinking getting yourself into this. When people told me that before Jack was born, I thought I wouldn't ever feel that way.  Admitting (even just to myself) I did feel that way sometimes was hard.  But having days when I wished I could be somewhere else didn't mean I was a bad mom.  It won't mean you're one either. Go easy on yourself.  

You can call.
I've told you before, but I want you to know I really mean it.  If I was still in Calgary, I would also offer to come over at any time, but since I'm here, the phone and Skype are the tools I have.  Any day, any time.  It will never be too early or too late.

You aren't alone.  

I can see now that the times when being a mom feels the hardest are the times I feel alone.  As soon as I find someone (in real life, or online) who feels the way I do, everything is easier.  As much as it takes a village to raise a child, I think it takes a village to raise a mom, too.  Find your village, and their support will overwhelm you.

Now enjoy this (and I dare you not to cry...)